To be honest, I suddenly realized the feeling of "time flies" and "days pass like a shuttle" that our ancestors used to say. It feels like it was just yesterday when we confessed our feelings, but in the blink of an eye, it has been a year. So, I decided to write an article to commemorate this short but eventful year.
In the Beginning#
To be honest, I still haven't figured out whether she was the one who flirted with me or if I was the one who flirted with her. I guess I won't figure it out anytime soon.
On the early morning of November 7th last year, we were chatting about Singles' Day, and then she suddenly said, "It would be great if I could find someone on Singles' Day." Without thinking, I replied, "I wish you the best." And just like that, you could visibly sense the person on the other side of the screen becoming unhappy.
Then I was puzzled. Why is this girl so hard to understand? Why is she angry? What did I say wrong? Wait, could it be that she likes me? How could a silly programmer like me catch her attention? Meow? After repeatedly questioning her, she admitted it, and we naturally started dating.
She later complained to me:
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How could you ask a girl if she likes you or not?
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When you said, "I wish you the best," my first reaction was that this guy is clueless.
Getting Along#
She is an excellent piano major student, very talented, and a top student (I accidentally found out that even though she missed half a year of humanities classes during the college entrance examination, she still scored more than 50 points above the cutoff for first-tier universities, which amazed me). On the other hand, I am a mediocre programmer. In theory, we have nothing in common, so many people might wonder how we get along.
Well, first of all, it's inevitable that I am often criticized in daily life, and sometimes she acts silly, and I also complain about her.
Let me tell you two stories:
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One day, I told her, "Did you know, dear? We Taurus people are awesome." She was surprised and asked, "Oh, so you believe in astrology?" Then I enthusiastically told her, "Did you know that one of the earliest recorded supernova explosions in human history occurred in the Taurus constellation (SN 1054, in the year 1054)?" She was speechless for ten minutes.
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One night, I was trying to coax her to sleep, and I said, "Darling, it's almost midnight, you should go to sleep." She immediately replied, "It's only 11 o'clock in Japan right now." I was stunned for ten minutes. (Meow?)
Well, these are just jokes. Although it seems like we come from different worlds, we still have many things in common, and we deliberately try to get closer to each other's habits in our daily lives. For example, we go to see musicals together (watching too many musicals leads to a drained wallet), and then we criticize performances, such as saying that the actors in "Faust" were not good enough, or pointing out flaws in the actors in "Don Quixote." Of course, I also introduce her to useful electronic products and recommend good software to her (of course, she often complains to me, "You already told me about this, idiot!") (And then I successfully got her into the RSS subscription pit).
Of course, if you ask her why she likes me, the only reason she gives is that she is blind (escape).
Daily Life#
As ordinary people, our daily lives are actually similar to those of most people. It consists of warmth and surprises, as well as complaints and tolerance.
Speaking for myself, as a programmer, especially in the past two years, I have undergone significant changes and faced many critical moments. Due to the nature of my profession, although I don't work 996 (9 a.m. to 9 p.m., 6 days a week), I still leave home early in the morning and return late at night. After a long day, I am often exhausted. To be honest, my health has not been good. From last year to this year, I have had various minor health issues. In such a situation, having someone by your side is of great significance to me.
I have told her before that the most direct change she has brought to me is a sense of belonging to this city. Every morning when I leave home, I have someone to hug, and when I come home at night, I have someone to hug. This ritualistic behavior has given me a rare sense of belonging to Beijing, the city I live in. It has made me completely abandon the idea of being a digital nomad, drifting between different cities.
She is also someone who is good at giving me small surprises and has a sense of life. Whether it's a bouquet of flowers she prepared for me before I started my job or the small plants she keeps at home, such as Baby's Breath and Jasmine, they bring life to our home. Sometimes, when you feel down, she will suddenly appear with your favorite food to cheer you up and encourage you to keep moving forward.
Of course, in a relationship, besides warmth and surprises, there are also constant complaints and tolerance.
For example, due to my busy work schedule and my own laziness, I often make a mess at home. She would complain and threaten to break up with me while cleaning up. Another example is when she made a snowball cocktail, and I drank too much and ended up pretending to be a dead dog on the bed. She would scold me for being silly, but every now and then, she would come over to check if I was okay.
Well, in our daily life, there is one important component! That is, being lovey-dovey!
Ah, whenever I intentionally or unintentionally show affection in our technical group, she always worries and asks, "Will you get beaten up for doing that?" I say yes, and then she says, "Oh, then I can rest assured."
233333!
Pets#
Well, pets are a very important part of our daily life, so let me talk about them separately.
First, let me introduce our four cats at home.
Little Uncle Daxiong, currently residing in Shandong, likes to sing, scratch, rap, and catch fish. He is currently memorizing "Snow in the Spring Garden."
Well-behaved eldest daughter, Dudou, used to be a stray cat. She is very considerate and will come over to check on us when we are not feeling well. This often leads to her complaining, "You love Dudou more than me!"
Rebellious granddaughter, Qiuqian, has fluctuating looks and sometimes likes to cause trouble.
Because of these three cats, I remember that our initial topic of conversation was how to neuter Daxiong. Through this topic, we deepened our relationship and understanding of each other. Ah, the great Comrade Daxiong, long live!
Oh, I suddenly remembered another story about Qiuqian. In October last year, I was doing housekeeping. Qiuqian was scared and hid in an unknown corner of the house. When I returned home, I thought Qiuqian was lost, so I cried and searched for her throughout the neighborhood. My dear comforted me, saying, "Don't cry, I'll help you find her."
Well, these four cats have different meanings to us at different times. Of course, when the cats steal food or break my cosmetics, my dear always complains to me, "Look at the cats you raised! You owe me compensation." (Tears of frustration.jpg)
Conclusion#
In the past year, fortunately, despite various disputes, we have not had any fights. We raise cats together, read books together, do pottery together, and celebrate our anniversary together. During this year, we have set many goals and hopes for the future, such as studying in Canada together, working together to buy our dream house, taking a gap year in Kyoto, Japan, and so on.
Although I have said this many times, I want to say it again: "Darling, I appreciate and enjoy your love."
I love you, my dear. Happy one-year anniversary!
Oh, by the way, many people ask who the person mentioned in the article is. Let me introduce her again. Her name is Jingche (also my nickname), and she is from Shandong. Both Jingche and I say hello to everyone here!